Unityfaith

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Birthday: July 15
Location: Canton, Ohio
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I am a jesus freak, mom and nurse. I have many interests but number one is serving the Lord. I am currently in school bettering myself for God and my family. Trying to be all that I can be. I am 31 and love to talk to people. If you would like to know more simply ask.

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Surviving a Dysfunctional Family Unity Faith Miller Written in 2007 for an English Class Dysfunction is common throughout families today. There are many children in the custody of states they reside in, as a result of these dysfunctions. Any number of things may contribute to these dysfunctions, such as, alcoholism, substance abuse, mental illness, sexual/physical abuse, the need for perfection, religious/political fanaticism, abuses that parents may have experienced, or other dysfunctional encounters. Being around these dysfunctions on a day to day basis can lead to unresolved emotional problems, unhealthy relationships, inability to express one’s feelings/emotions and many other issues. Unfortunately, I can relate to being one of those many children in the states custody due to the dysfunctions that occurred in their/my family. Through what I experienced growing up I realize that, my family was not normal. Though, when I was a child I thought it was normal. However, it was ok in my family to have sexual relations with another member (or so it seemed to me) as long as it was not talked about, It was a normal to be called stupid and told I was a nuisance. The presence of drugs, and over abundance of alcohol was an everyday happening during the early years of my life. Then, in the years before I was placed in the state’s custody, my mother became a religious fanatic, trying to make up for the things that occurred in the prior years. Now, how does one survive coming from a dysfunctional family? How do you surpass all that you have been faced with in your life? First, you must realize that things must change and that it is not normal. Sometimes, this is a possibility and sometimes, it may feel like it is not. But ultimately you must protect yourself and try to never give up hope. Next, you need to find who you are without your family because, what has been occurring does not define you. Also, align yourself with healthy friends and family who can support and encourage you and not drag you back into an emotional “black hole“. It may seem as if this is not possible and that all that has been happening will continue. But, I would like to tell you it is possible. At the age 12, I stood up to stop the dysfunctions in my family. It was not easy and I still find it hard today at the age of 30, but I did it. I by no means, am totally over the things that has occurred, and have even made ill-advised attempts to place myself back within my family, which, only continued and added on to the dysfunctions that are still there. I have, even gone through many unhealthy relationships, the inability and fear to express my emotions or thoughts, and failure to truly trust others. You may not see it when you meet me, and you may even think I am a well composed woman but, that is due to my fight to become who I am today. It is also due to the realizations that I have come to, throughout my 30 years of existence. I just thank God, and give him all the glory when it comes to surviving my dysfunctional family. I wish, I could say that my family is happy and together, but it is not. And part of me surviving my family is realizing that I can not fix everyone in my family. They have to be willing to fix themselves. Otherwise, all that I through God have worked for is gone. So, take this time and understand that there is hope for those in dysfunctional families. It will take time and perseverance, but it is possible. Just remember, you must do what is best for you and not forget that these things are not normal or healthy and must be stopped.


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soap 5 months ago

I just got back from Canton about 2 weeks ago...I had a great time.

soap 9 months ago

Have a great time this weekend!

soap 10 months ago

That would be great. My husband and I both believe we will go...but we don't know when yet; but I think it will be this year--possibly spring or summer. I am hoping to visit our friend before then, though.

marsh464 10 months ago

God bless you!!

heartbreak34 10 months ago

hey back how are you? =]

jamdowner07 10 months ago

Hey is your son a little TobyMac fan too?

cncwebbie 10 months ago

God bless you too

freak4jesus 10 months ago

Heya

jamdowner07 10 months ago

Hi,welcome to the community!

soap 10 months ago

I may end up moving to that area after all….